LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH
HOPE IS NOT ENOUGH
I believe the first book published for parents parenting RAD kids was When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD by Nancy Thomas . Published 2 years after our RAD was officially diagnosed, it was not a resource available to me. Our officially diagnosed RAD's behavior began to improve tremendously during her third year in our home (2nd year post-diagnosis.) I found Nancy Thomas's book in 2009; AFTER our young adult RADkids RADtypically melted down. I found Love Is Not Enough during the age-appropriate season for young adults to embark on their adult lives... a season where healthy steps toward healthy detachment stirred up memories of abuse/neglect/abandonment in our young-adult-adopted-children. Abuse/neglect/abandonment that began their life long before entering our loving family. I instantly remembered the diagnosis "Reactive Attachment Disorder with Hypervigilance" when family member reminded me our children were DEEPLY TROUBLED when they were removed from the foster system and placed in our loving home.
"Experts" say that RAD can grow into BPD Borderline Personality Disorder. The little I've read on the subject it appears there IS much behavior BPD's display that parallels RAD.
Investigating the topic more, I began looking for books on the subject. I found When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder by Bon Dobbs
Neither have to be reciprocal.
Although It would be oh-so-nice if they were!
HOPE IS NOT ENOUGH
I believe the first book published for parents parenting RAD kids was When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD by Nancy Thomas . Published 2 years after our RAD was officially diagnosed, it was not a resource available to me. Our officially diagnosed RAD's behavior began to improve tremendously during her third year in our home (2nd year post-diagnosis.) I found Nancy Thomas's book in 2009; AFTER our young adult RADkids RADtypically melted down. I found Love Is Not Enough during the age-appropriate season for young adults to embark on their adult lives... a season where healthy steps toward healthy detachment stirred up memories of abuse/neglect/abandonment in our young-adult-adopted-children. Abuse/neglect/abandonment that began their life long before entering our loving family. I instantly remembered the diagnosis "Reactive Attachment Disorder with Hypervigilance" when family member reminded me our children were DEEPLY TROUBLED when they were removed from the foster system and placed in our loving home.
"Experts" say that RAD can grow into BPD Borderline Personality Disorder. The little I've read on the subject it appears there IS much behavior BPD's display that parallels RAD.
Investigating the topic more, I began looking for books on the subject. I found When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder by Bon Dobbs
Love is not enough!
Hope is not enough!
YET...
Both are necessary...
FOR ME...
...to carry on!
Neither have to be reciprocal.
Although It would be oh-so-nice if they were!
Color me eternally hopeful!
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