Our oldest is visiting and we are LOVING our time with our still sweet and cuddly, capable of reciprocating love child.
We all are having fun with the new puppy... what a nice treat to have the pitter patter of his little feet around the house!!!
Cousins will come up to visit while our daughter is here... and everything has been quite joyous.
We do have our moments.
Today for example shopping in a store that was completely decked out for the holidays... Christmas music was playing... and my hubby grumbled... "I HATE Christmas!"
I told him I loved him, and I loved the fact that I get to spend Christmas with him...
My sweet tenderhearted hubby who loves our children so very much burst out crying "Our family is broken! I hate it! This is not what Christmas is supposed to be!"
I've been trying to balance the pain associated with RADtypical attacks against us, with the knowledge that truly this is NOT personal, it's mental illness... I wondered tonight if our RADs are capable of empathy... are the capable of realizing their behaviors cause pain, and be sorry for it.
I remembered when our kids were first placed with us... our new daughter was very concerned for the people she'd seen sleeping under the bridge. That seems pretty darned empathetic.
I also remember it taking seemingly forever for them to be sorry for more than getting caught... BUT when they finally would "get it" they'd get it... and demonstrate what appeared to be appropriate regret and sorrow for hurting others.
So I'm encouraged through my memories of who they were... and we're still praying for them... alot!!!
As much as 3.5 years later our pre-adoption core family is coping SO MUCH BETTER than we have been since the RAD's conjoined meltdown and attack against us... it still sucks knowing we have poured every good thing we have into children who are "done" with us... not just "done and gone" but done, gone, and still "working" the "poor pathetic abused orphan" game for whomever knows us, is willing to listen, and reward them with money, gifts, time and attention in exchange for the entertainment their concocted tales of woe provide.
Anyway... I'm trying to focus more on the awesome things God gives us... and there is certainly to be very grateful for! We keep praying for all... and we're so very grateful to know we are not the only adoptive parents going through this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
We all are having fun with the new puppy... what a nice treat to have the pitter patter of his little feet around the house!!!
Cousins will come up to visit while our daughter is here... and everything has been quite joyous.
We do have our moments.
Today for example shopping in a store that was completely decked out for the holidays... Christmas music was playing... and my hubby grumbled... "I HATE Christmas!"
I told him I loved him, and I loved the fact that I get to spend Christmas with him...
My sweet tenderhearted hubby who loves our children so very much burst out crying "Our family is broken! I hate it! This is not what Christmas is supposed to be!"
I've been trying to balance the pain associated with RADtypical attacks against us, with the knowledge that truly this is NOT personal, it's mental illness... I wondered tonight if our RADs are capable of empathy... are the capable of realizing their behaviors cause pain, and be sorry for it.
I remembered when our kids were first placed with us... our new daughter was very concerned for the people she'd seen sleeping under the bridge. That seems pretty darned empathetic.
I also remember it taking seemingly forever for them to be sorry for more than getting caught... BUT when they finally would "get it" they'd get it... and demonstrate what appeared to be appropriate regret and sorrow for hurting others.
So I'm encouraged through my memories of who they were... and we're still praying for them... alot!!!
As much as 3.5 years later our pre-adoption core family is coping SO MUCH BETTER than we have been since the RAD's conjoined meltdown and attack against us... it still sucks knowing we have poured every good thing we have into children who are "done" with us... not just "done and gone" but done, gone, and still "working" the "poor pathetic abused orphan" game for whomever knows us, is willing to listen, and reward them with money, gifts, time and attention in exchange for the entertainment their concocted tales of woe provide.
Anyway... I'm trying to focus more on the awesome things God gives us... and there is certainly to be very grateful for! We keep praying for all... and we're so very grateful to know we are not the only adoptive parents going through this.
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Holiday blessings to you and your family!
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