Merry Christmas to all my friends (who read this... and even those who don't!)
And Happy New Year!!!!
We've been busy with my brother's family visiting... which is always so nice!!! His two are still so young, but growing quickly and we always have such fun seeing them and playing with them. We were just at their house before Halloween. After we left the little one was reported to have said repeatedly he "ONLY" loves me and my hubby. Ha ha. Nice to know some kids find us loveable!
The two little ones were at first quite shy of our new puppy, but the older one warmed up quickly. When we all met at a nearby amusement park, the little guy told us our dog was mean because he kept kissing him. Awww... maybe next visit our puppy will be less kissy faced.
This is such a busy time. I'm not missing Facebook at all. I'm glad to have closed it!
During a Christmas party we saw a friend, grandmother to many little ones... I think she told me her latest count is 7. She still has a little one at home herself.... her baby is 10 or 11 years old. She asked how "things" were going with our estranged kids. I told her the older of the two is transforming us into grandparents while estranged. This friend told me quite emphatically I "NEED TO FIGHT" for my rights to see that grandchild!!! That grandchild NEEDS her grandparents.
We pray for our kids, and our newly developing granddaughter. I will not "FIGHT' for my rights to see any of my grandkids. Sorry. It's not that they're not worth it. It's not that they don't "need" our love. It's that RAD is Mom... and Mom is RAD.
The only fight I find worth fighting regarding our RADkids is on my knees.
Meanwhile on the still-estranged-sonny-delight front, our oldest called and shared her frustration, she had reached out to give a heads up that Christmas greetings were on the way and found out from her estranged from us brother's wife that they had moved... and noone told her... and he's deployed... and didn't tell her. I encouraged our oldest that in ANY relationship, where communication is less than she'd desire or where she'd like to be treated differently in any manner, it is perfectly appropriate to speak up and let her desires be known. I told her she's not doing anyone any favors to secretly stew about how she's perceived mistreatment. She asked how things worked in my siblings and my adult relationships. I explained that all families are different. It seems most often women are more likely to try and keep in touch.
With My siblings Mom has always been the central connection for address updates, deployments and various tidbits of interesting sibling activities. We do connect on our own, but rely on hearing summaries of activities from Mom. Naturally some siblings stay in contact more with some than others. We also have a cool first cousin that started annual family address updates. I really appreciate that labor of love. It keeps us up-to-date on not only addresses, but birthdays, and children and pets and as they have come along grandchildren.
I explained to our oldest that non-communication from her estranged-from-us adopted brother and his wife is not necessarily a snub... and the best way to let anyone know what we'd like in any relationship is to speak up.
And Happy New Year!!!!
We've been busy with my brother's family visiting... which is always so nice!!! His two are still so young, but growing quickly and we always have such fun seeing them and playing with them. We were just at their house before Halloween. After we left the little one was reported to have said repeatedly he "ONLY" loves me and my hubby. Ha ha. Nice to know some kids find us loveable!
The two little ones were at first quite shy of our new puppy, but the older one warmed up quickly. When we all met at a nearby amusement park, the little guy told us our dog was mean because he kept kissing him. Awww... maybe next visit our puppy will be less kissy faced.
This is such a busy time. I'm not missing Facebook at all. I'm glad to have closed it!
During a Christmas party we saw a friend, grandmother to many little ones... I think she told me her latest count is 7. She still has a little one at home herself.... her baby is 10 or 11 years old. She asked how "things" were going with our estranged kids. I told her the older of the two is transforming us into grandparents while estranged. This friend told me quite emphatically I "NEED TO FIGHT" for my rights to see that grandchild!!! That grandchild NEEDS her grandparents.
We pray for our kids, and our newly developing granddaughter. I will not "FIGHT' for my rights to see any of my grandkids. Sorry. It's not that they're not worth it. It's not that they don't "need" our love. It's that RAD is Mom... and Mom is RAD.
The only fight I find worth fighting regarding our RADkids is on my knees.
Meanwhile on the still-estranged-sonny-delight front, our oldest called and shared her frustration, she had reached out to give a heads up that Christmas greetings were on the way and found out from her estranged from us brother's wife that they had moved... and noone told her... and he's deployed... and didn't tell her. I encouraged our oldest that in ANY relationship, where communication is less than she'd desire or where she'd like to be treated differently in any manner, it is perfectly appropriate to speak up and let her desires be known. I told her she's not doing anyone any favors to secretly stew about how she's perceived mistreatment. She asked how things worked in my siblings and my adult relationships. I explained that all families are different. It seems most often women are more likely to try and keep in touch.
With My siblings Mom has always been the central connection for address updates, deployments and various tidbits of interesting sibling activities. We do connect on our own, but rely on hearing summaries of activities from Mom. Naturally some siblings stay in contact more with some than others. We also have a cool first cousin that started annual family address updates. I really appreciate that labor of love. It keeps us up-to-date on not only addresses, but birthdays, and children and pets and as they have come along grandchildren.
I explained to our oldest that non-communication from her estranged-from-us adopted brother and his wife is not necessarily a snub... and the best way to let anyone know what we'd like in any relationship is to speak up.
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