I've been consoling myself with the fact that our love for our adopted children has not been wasted... that because Love is eternal... We have invested well, we continue to invest well... even if our adoptees don't have the ability to love us on this side of eternity. Our continued investment of Love is one of the eternal treasures we will not loose as we pass to the other side of eternity.
We began to really understand RAD better after our adult adoptees' "conjoined meltdown" as we read the books published years after the diagnosis that our now-adult adopted daughter was given just as she was placed with us for adoption.
Regarding RAD, I was educated after my kids were raised to adulthood, that Love is not enough... by Nancy Thomas...
When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD was the first book published for parents raising Attachment Disordered. It was published three years after our RAD daughter was "officially diagnosed." It's one of the first books I came across in trying to understand what was going on in the minds of our beloved adopted adult children.
1 Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
How had I possibly forgotten the fact that Hope is eternal????!!!!
I was instantly encouraged. Hope is eternal! Our continued investment hope for our adult adopted children IS NOT WASTED. Even if we never see on this side of eternity fruit of our invested Hope and Love.
Faith, Hope, and Love remain... They're eternal.
We have faith in God's promises.... and we continue to invest well.
We began to really understand RAD better after our adult adoptees' "conjoined meltdown" as we read the books published years after the diagnosis that our now-adult adopted daughter was given just as she was placed with us for adoption.
Regarding RAD, I was educated after my kids were raised to adulthood, that Love is not enough... by Nancy Thomas...
When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD was the first book published for parents raising Attachment Disordered. It was published three years after our RAD daughter was "officially diagnosed." It's one of the first books I came across in trying to understand what was going on in the minds of our beloved adopted adult children.
Love may not be enough... but it's necessary, it's eternal, and we have invested well.
I've read that "Attachment Disorder" often grows up to be "Borderline Personality Disorder." From what we've experienced that could very well be the case for our adult adopted children.
One of the first parenting BPD books I read was titled When Hope is Not Enough by Bon Dobbs.
I'd been feeling kind of hopeless about hope. Three years into the insanity of adult adoptee RAD/BPD manipulations/triangulations... hope doesn't "seem to be" working much.
Most nights as we tuck in, Dear hubby reads us a short devotional from In-Touch Ministries. The verse about a week ago was from "The Love Chapter" of the Bible.
1 Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
How had I possibly forgotten the fact that Hope is eternal????!!!!
I was instantly encouraged. Hope is eternal! Our continued investment hope for our adult adopted children IS NOT WASTED. Even if we never see on this side of eternity fruit of our invested Hope and Love.
Faith, Hope, and Love remain... They're eternal.
We have faith in God's promises.... and we continue to invest well.
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